got me a college girl

in celebration of formal education in the life of the Christian girl

Thursday, June 30, 2005

How ya gonna keep 'um down on the farm once they've seen (Karen)

It seems to me that possibly one of the reasons that people don't want women to go to college is that it is assumed that women will no longer be interested in being wives and raising children and overseeing the running of households once they have tasted of life outside of the walls of their house.

This is nonsense. Every one, whether a man or a woman, has seasons of life. We begin as children who are in the season of learning and studying, we grow into adulthood and continue learning things, but with more specific goals in mind. When we marry, we have new responsibilities, especially to our husbands. As mothers, we have children who must be put first and nurtured and cared for, setting aside our own personal enrichment goals. Then, as the children grow older, we have more opportunites to seek out our own interests. This is part of God's plan. If children were to be abandoned or raised by caregivers or fathers, moms wouldn't be the ones with the breasts. And if we were not to think and study and contribute to our world, especially as Christians, we wouldn't have brains.

To me, it is all a matter of looking at our lives in seasons and reveling in each season as it comes along. Just because a woman has many interests and loves to learn and study does not mean that she does not value all the stages and seasons of her life and will enjoy a home and family.

Isn't it interesting that in God's perfect plan, women reach a time when they are no longer able to physically bear and nurse children? Did he intend for women to dry up and blow away then? No! It then becomes the season when you can delight in being an older woman!

An older homeschooling mother told me that she has, for several decades now, kept a part of her week to pursue things that she enjoys, to study and learn things just for her own experience, believing that she is a better wife and mother because of that. I, too, have tried to do that and would agree that I am a much more interesting person because of it.

That is exactly the point of this blog, in my humble opinion. Placing women into categories where they are not supposed to better themselves educationally harms every member of the family, every member of the body of Christ. Defining roles and training and "girl" and "boy" goes beyond what the Scriptures teach.

As a WIT, woman in transition, each year moving out of the "stay at home mom stage" of life and into the "I am grandmama and I have learned a thing or two by gum" stage, let me say that I have seen college, I have loved being down on the farm, and now look forward to the days when I can do both.


  • At 11:49 AM, Blogger cheezwizlizbiz said…

    Karen, you write "Defining roles and training and "girl" and "boy" goes beyond what the Scriptures teach."

    I'd like to clarify. Are you saying that you are against defined roles for men and women completely? Do not men and women have some specific roles within the Kingdom?

  • At 1:08 PM, Blogger prairie girl said…

    Hi Liz,

    I absolutely believe there are different roles for men than there are for women. Sorry that was unclear.

    I went into more detail on this on my blog:
    I believe that women are, primarily, called to fulfill what author Susan Hunt calls the "helper design". That is the principle but how it is worked out in practice is going to look different in different relationships and that can even change from time to time. For example, perhaps a husband, who has been given the job of providing for a family by Scripture, becomes ill or incapacitated. The wife may need to be the best helper she can be by stepping in to help support the family.

    One of my best friends lost her husband a year and a half ago. Here she is with 4 children, ages 15 to 6. What was she to do? And to top it all off, her husband was a contractor with a huge project that had to be finished.

    My friend jumped in, took over where her husband left off, her friends helped with the children, allowing her to still homeschool them, her church family came and finished undone work in her home, and not once did someone, that I know of, criticize her for stepping into another role, temporarily.

    I hope that all helps.

  • At 1:35 PM, Blogger Camille said…

    But the "role vocabulary" is often a cover for an accompaniment metaphor. We are not the mere compliment to men. We don't simply play the piano for their solo (which is the picture that dominates so many of the discussions). We are peers. We both minister. We both glorify God. Together, yes. But when we become one flesh we aren't just his flesh (how it's often read). We're something new entirely.

  • At 2:18 PM, Blogger cheezwizlizbiz said…

    Thank you! That makes total sense and ITA. :)

  • At 7:54 AM, Blogger TulipGirl said…

    "How ya gonna keep 'um down on the farm once they've seen . ."

    I have a dear friend who avoided college for many years, staying home with her parents to work and minister in that context. She's in college now.

    More than anything, she wants to be married, settle down, have her babies. . . But that is not what God is bringing into her life now. So she is following Him, one step at a time.

    She's not going back to the farm after college--but overseas in a missionary capacity.


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