got me a college girl

in celebration of formal education in the life of the Christian girl

Friday, June 24, 2005

Homegrown Tomatoes (Camille)

My husband insists, "Sure -- you can understand why someone wouldn't want to go to college!"

No. I really can't. Anymore than I can understand why someone wouldn't like homegrown tomatoes. How can anyone NOT enjoy that wonderful demonstration of summer?

I know people don't like school just like I know people that don't like homegrown tomatoes. But I don't understand.

5 Comments:

  • At 11:54 AM, Blogger greenemama said…

    perhaps they don't like the idea of college because they're book-lazy? ::shrugging freckled shoulders::

     
  • At 8:35 AM, Blogger Elizabeth said…

    Or maybe they are an entrepreneur who wants to just get into business? Perhaps they'll get to it eventually. :)

     
  • At 3:27 PM, Blogger Crystal Ben-Ezra said…

    As someone who had a full scholarship to the college of my choice, and did not go, I will explain why I made that decision.

    It's not because I think college is a waste of time or even a bad decision for all women. And by far, it is not that I am lazy, that I did not go. Anyone who knows me, knows that my sin is not laziness, but of never resting. I was the girl who studied hours upon hours for a test. I was the girl who wrote my research paper weeks before it was due. I was the girl who took *optional* summer classes for the fun of it! No...laziness was not my problem.

    Why do some women think college is not a good choice for them? It really depends on what the woman's goal is.

    My goal was to fulfill the Scripture that says of young women, "to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands..."

    I examined my choices. Was college going to help me love my husband, children, sumbit to my husband, and be a worker at home? In my opinion, it was going to hinder my goal. It would teach me to love a career, to put children off as long as possible, to be liberated and independant of my husband, and to be a worker outside of the home. Yes, even at this Christian college I was seeking.

    So I didn't go. Instead, I found a husband and began my own "career" as homemaker and wife.

    Of course, this doesn't mean that I am against any kind of "higher education." I would say that I am opposed to the Academic Model. I don't think being walled up in a college campus, inside rooms all day, truly prepares someone for real work and real life.

    Instead, I think the Apprenticeship Model is best. I think the best way to learn is to find a master of that trade, profession, art, etc. and study under him or her.

    A dear desire of mine is to one day be a midwife. I could go to college for this. And depending upon the laws of our state at the time, I may have to. But sitting in a room studying a book is not going to teach me how to talk to and soothe a woman who really wants to hurt me because she is in so much pain. A book will not teach me how to encourage and love the woman whose baby was just born stillborn. This is learned "on the job" under the apprenticeship of another midwife.

    So also is mothering and being a godly wife. Which was my goal. I apprenticed under my dear Mother-in-law (who passed away not long ago) and other godly women in my church. By their example, I learned what I know today.

    So there is my lengthy explanation of why one woman, who didn't go to college, decided to take a different course (pun intended).

    Please understand my post to be a friendly explanation in hopes to clear things up for those who do not understand. I make no judgements when writing this. :-)

     
  • At 7:21 PM, Blogger prairie girl said…

    Crystal,

    You talk about the choices that you had in front of you and how college would not have been the best path for you to have taken to fulfill your personal goals.

    From reading some comments written by Gabrielle on her blog, I was wondering why you are not painting a picture of those choices for Arianna? What if God is going to call her to be a different kind of helpmeet than He has called you to be? I know some men who really want their wives to have been formally educated and see them as the better choice for assisting them in their personal ministries, for training their children etc.
    For example, someone pastoring a church might want his wife to have been trained in Christian education or Biblical counseling. Are you going to allow Arianna the same choices that you had in front of you?

     
  • At 4:10 PM, Blogger Tim's Mom said…

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